Learning to Live With Criticism

So it’s been a few days since the last post and the hurtful comment mentioned within. The gist of it is, even though that person sucks for being so rude, I’m putting it behind me. And I’m certainly not going to stop writing. What I am going to do, as mentioned in my post where I took my first hiatus, is to stop putting so much stock in other people.

Yes, that person’s words hurt so bad because it was a very vocal negative piling on top of a very large silence from others. But I did end up mentioning it to my fiancé. And he said, “When you receive a compliment, you don’t go outside and scream it to the world and celebrate. Likewise, one person’s negativity shouldn’t tear you down.”

I’m a stubborn person. Sure, I’m a big softy who gets hurt easily. But I’m stubborn. When I was working on Emergent’s cover, someone told me it looked like trash. That it looked like Clipart rubbish. I doubted so much then, too, and tried to get a different cover going. But, like I said: I’m stubborn. So I tweaked some things with my cover and published the book with it. And guess what? That book, with its “terrible cover”, garnered me my first three reviews.

I would by lying if I said I wasn’t worried my first review of Desolation will be negative. That it will echo what the other person had said. Because a lone negative review could very likely tank the chances of an otherwise reviewless book’s success, and I’ve poured my heart into that book and want it to succeed. But at the end of the day, I will always continue writing, always be putting out more books, and always be improving my craft. There will always be more opportunities for good reviews.

So, instead of taking a hiatus from social media again, I’m just going to simply make that into my norm. I have better things to do than write posts that, at this point in time, no one will see or care about. I will once again try to shift my mindset to not put so much stock into others.

What I will do, is write. And I’ll make sure to add a good dose of non-said dialogue tags, some sentence structures that “can’t happen at the same time”, and some invisible noun/verb errors. Because writing is my joy in life, and I’m not going to let some random person on the internet take that away from me.

One thought on “Learning to Live With Criticism”

  1. I am so proud of you good for you for standing up for what you believe in and yes your writing is your joy never give that up for some person who criticizes things that you write or don’t write. You are an amazing author and once again very proud of you.

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